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Parenting Article
By Dad David
Empower Your Child to Make Right Choices
With these simple 10 minute solutions
It has been said, “The three best ways to teach are by
example, by example and by example.” Many parents have
found that reading with their child about the lives of
great heroes a wonderful way to teach them how to make
right choices. Legends like George Washington, Babe Ruth
and Thomas Edison can inspire a child to follow their good
examples. Sometimes reading these types of books with a
younger child can be easy and other times it can be a
challenge to hold their interest or to find the time to do
it.
One day I stumbled onto a wonderful solution in the form
of the most powerful motivational short stories of all
time. These brief yet almost magical chronicles captured
the attention of my son and encouraged him in ways nothing
else does. But I didn’t find these rare treasures in a
bookstore, nor could I purchase them for any price. So
where did I find these free gems?
One night my son asked me to read him a bedtime story when
I was tucking him into bed. As I looked around his room
for a book to read, I got the idea of reading from the
journal of his life I had been keeping for several years.
Because the demands for my time were always greater than
the supply, I would only write in this journal for
10-minutes once a week. I read him one of the entries that
took me about 10-minutes to write (and about one minute to
read).
To my amazement he was absolutely fascinated as he heard
about this episode in his life. As soon as I was done, he
started asking me questions about it and then said, “Daddy
read me another.” We must have read three or four entries
that night and each one was as interesting to him as the
first. After that evening, the journal became his favorite
bedtime storybook. What I didn’t realize at the time was
the profound influence this journal would later have on my
son’s life, and how it would better empower him to make
the right choices.
Sometimes as I made my 10-minute entry of an experience my
son had that week, I would write about a right choice I
observed him make. As we would read the journal stories
together, we regularly came across stories of Adam making
a right choice. This proved to be a powerful way to
inspire him.
Adam is the type of boy who is full of excitement for
life. Sometimes all that excitement can lead him to be
more competitive. And at times he can get frustrated when
things don’t work out as planned and can be too hard on
himself. Here is a journal entry that is an example of
Adam controlling his frustration and making a right
choice.
Dear Adam, April 15 (8yrs old)
Saturday at 10am, I took you to your Little League
scrimmage game. You played your friend Zach’s team, the
Diamondbacks. You did a great job in the outfield and as
pitcher, and you got some great hits when you were up at
bat. One of the things that impressed me the most was the
one time you struck out that game. When you struck out you
didn’t argue with the umpire or throw your bat down. You
were calm and accepting of it. Even when you went back to
the dugout you didn’t utter a single word of complaint.
You demonstrated excellent sportsmanship. You reminded me
of a “true” professional player. When we got home I told
mom what happened and she was very impressed and happy.
Love,
Dad
There is a unique advantage to catching my son making a
right choice and recording it in his journal. When we read
this type of entry together, Adam becomes the hero who set
the example by his actions. He is the protagonist making
the right choice in his real-life story. And he
understands it’s something he is capable of doing, again.
This transforms a simple entry into a wonderful tool to
inspired Adam in some very effective ways.
As with any important tool, an entry can be reused again
just as powerfully when the need arises. The year after
the above entry was made, Adam was in another season of
Little League baseball. His team, the Tigers, was
fortunate enough do well in the playoff games. The second
to the last playoff game was particularly exciting and
occasionally stressful. My wife, Mary, and I noticed that
at times during that game, Adam let his frustrations
manifest themselves in the form of being too hard on
himself. I wanted to help my young son learn how to better
control his frustrations in challenging situations, but I
wasn’t sure how. Then I got an idea.
Two days before the final championship game I got Adam’s
journal out after dinner. I read the above entry to Adam
and Mary. Then Mary and I very briefly commented on how
impressed we were with how he handled himself in that
situation. We also challenged him to follow that example
in the championship game.
Even though the Tigers didn’t win that championship game,
Mary and I felt Adam won a much more important game. He
won control of his emotions and frustrations. There were
significant improvements in choices he made during that
game.
Sometimes when we are reading the journal at bedtime, we
come across the perfect story he needed to hear at that
time. Then there are those times I purposely seek out an
entry that fits a specific need. As a father, I am amazed
at what a high return I am getting on my investment of
only 10-minutes a week. I actually find myself looking
forward to the weekly event of writing about an experience
in my son’s life.
A child’s ability to make right choices can effect their
childhood and adulthood in some profound ways. Reading the
biographies of heroes can be a great example for a child,
but reading their own history about the times they made
right choices adds a whole new dimension to this form of
influence.
I used to think that one-day when my son is an adult, this
unique journal will probably be a priceless treasure for
both of us. Then I realized I didn’t have to wait until he
became an adult; it’s a priceless treasure now, one we
both truly enjoy.
Author Dad David (G. David Nassief)
http://www.SmartKidsPlay.com Mail to: David@SmartKidsPlay.com |